It Is Difficult To Celebrate The Success Of Others, If You Feel You Cannot Celebrate Your Own
When other human beings are successful but oneself is not, it is an unbalanced state.
Human beings exist in two separate states simultaneously : as an individual and a member of the species.
Unless both aspects are fully actualized, a human being is neither healthy nor balanced.
If You Aren't Feeling Attractive, Simply Don't 'See' Attractive People
Feeling your heart beat faster, your blood begin to boil and sweat appearing on your brow is unpleasant when you don't feel worthy of being noticed yourself.
In these instances simply ignore the person, don't 'see' them.
Look right past them. Look right through them.
The way life should be is everybody looking in the mirror and thinking, "Damn. I'm hot." When an attractive person looked at you, you knew they were enjoying what they were seeing.
When such is not the case, it is painful for both parties. Until our species matures and insures that everyone is “a sexy beast", don't “see” attractive people when you aren't feeling so yourself. You don't deserve to suffer. Nobody does.
A Healthy Relationship Is When Two People Are Strong Apart, And Become Stronger Together
,or,
When One Person Is So Strong, They Are Able To Carry The Other Person Until They Are Strong Enough To Carry Themselves
In both cases, both people "need" each other and "feed" each other at the same time. Give and Take. The intimate union of two human beings is an intricate exchange of energy. Energy need flow both ways, lest one person become wholly depleted and the relationship collapses.
People Hurt Others To Express Their Own Pain
When people say hurtful things, look to the pains they do not talk about. It is their unspoken pains which are speaking. Human beings are naturally loving, generous and noble. It is only when human nature is perverted by unexpressed pain that human beings are hurtful.
Make Them As Children
When you feel anxious or apprehensive around adults, do a very simple thing : imagine them as children. Picture how they likely were when they were children. By seeing, large, angry, intimidating adults as the children they once were before the cruelty and callousness of a Capitalist system turned them into the cynical, bitter adults they are, you will find that you can understand the pain they are in, and the crushed dreams they carry close to their hearts, and you will find you have empathy for them, and they are not so scary after all.
Tell Children Of Your Regrets
In a society which does not support nor encourage people to follow their dreams with absolute, unfailing dedication, it is inevitable that the vast majority of adults are ladened with regrets. It is vitally important that disenchanted adults tell the next generation of all the regrets their heart is full of, to show the sadness that weighs them down in all its melancholy pressure, so that children see and feel irrevocably the pain that all those regrets have caused adults.
By telling children of your regrets, by showing them the emotional pain those regrets cause, you help them to avoid having those same regrets in their own life. In Antiquity when someone ate a poisonous mushroom and died, their having identified that mushroom helped the rest of their people. We human beings help each other, by telling one another of the regrets which have made our lives much less wonderful than we envisioned they could be.
Everybody Is Doing The Best They Can With What They Know
That means that nobody knows what is the “right” way to do things, only the best way they are aware of.
That means that any way you come up with to do things is just as valid as any of their ways because there is no “right” way to do things.
It is important for a person to not limit themselves based on what they believe other people consider is the right way for something to be done.
The Greatest Thing You Can Do For Another Human Being, Is To Be One Of The Forces Contributing To Their Growth.
The Worst Thing You Can Do To Another Human Being, Is To Be One Of The Forces Causing Them To Diminish.
Enhance Others
When you make others better, you make yourself better; for the higher they climb, the greater heights you will be inspired to raise yourself to.
Look At The Person Who Gives You Advice
When somebody gives you advice, look at the person, feel the person, see the person, and ask yourself if you want to heed the advice of this person.
Earn Your Own Respect
The person you can truly count on,
the one who will always be there for you is : you.
The person who always has to act on your behalf is : yourself.
Earn your own respect,
because more than anybody else,
your respect is the one you most need to earn.
If You Accept The Way Others See Things, You Are Blind To Your Own Vision
Ultimately the way you perceive existence is different from every single other person on the planet.
Such is the truth of being an individual.
Trying to adopt somebody else's beliefs as your own, cannot but create friction inside yourself.
You are a unique puzzle piece.
Trying to get somebody else to fit you : will not work.
The Only Person You Can Truly Count On (At This Stage Of Human Evolution) Is : Yourself
Until Humanity thinks of itself as an intrinsically interconnected species,
one bonded with each other, with animal and plant life and with the universe itself...
So long as human beings view themselves as separate and distinct and "better" than the rest of existence,
human beings CANNOT truly care for each other, and the only advice you can truly count on is your own.
The only person who truly knows you is : you.
The only person who truly understands what you have gone through is : you.
The only person who can ever truly care for everything that makes you you is : you.
When Humanity has learned telepathy, linking and the other techniques of human communication beyond the primitive ones of lingual and gesticule, human beings will be able to genuinely and wholly care for and understand one another.
Until we reach that level, you are the only one who really “gets you”.
With this in mind : temet nosce. (know thyself) and amore nosce (love thyself).
Know that human beings have the capability to truly bond with each other, but, we have not reached that state of evolution yet.
Knowing this you have something to strive for and look forward to.
You will not feel so disappointed by the lack of connection between us, the lack of a true bond that leaves the heart wanting.
We are most certainly capable of that connection we crave, it lies in our future.
For now, know what we are as a species, what we are capable of, and know that you are the only one so far who can truly understand you.
Don't worry. You are more than profound enough to take eternity to get to know, For you are limitless.
Nobody Really Knows Anything
Know implies Permanence. An impossible state in a universe where the only constant is change.
People will offer you their advice, but, if they try to pass off their advice as certain knowledge, there is no need to accept it as such, because the truth is that nothing in the universe is certain.
Ultimately, heed your own advice.
Thank people for theirs, but know that it is not certainty, just belief.
Conclusion
I offer you my best advice gladly, but, truthfully, I really have no idea what I'm doing.
This stuff is just the best advice I can give at this stage of my life.
I encourage you to ultimately advise yourself and find your own path. I do.
Take what you find useful and what you do not, simply disregard.
Every grain of sand offers a different perspective on life.
The way to live life is to appreciate every grain, learn from every grain, but, ultimately, to be your own unique grain.
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